Words of Affirmation: This is one that I scored highest on. When people explain their feelings for me I feel cared about. This is likely because I place such high value on words.
Quality Time: I scored second highest on this one (it was actually a tie with words of affirmation). I don't need fancy dates or expensive vacations with my friends. Snowcones at Lake Hefner make me happy. Watching Friends at home and laughing makes me smile. I was disappointed when I didn't get to spend much time with my family on my birthday and felt like I was being placated when my mom offered me a shopping trip because...
Receiving Gifts: is not one that I scored high on. Sure, presents are cool. I love Christmas as much as the next person. But I sometimes feel awkward receiving presents, especially since time with the person would have meant just as much to me, if not more. I treasured dinner with Shari and the shopping trip itself more than what was bought during the escapade. Although, I did get some killer shoes. Thanks, mom!
Acts of Service: Since I'm so independent I don't really care for anyone to do my work for me. I like finishing my own projects and wouldn't normally appreciate any outside help, no matter how good of intentions it was offered with.
Physical Touch: I scored second to lowest on this one. Don't get me wrong, I like kissing. I like hugging. But I don't base how I feel about other people or how they feel about me on our physical contact. I connect more at an emotional level with my friends and family. I confess that I do sometimes turn away from my dad's kisses on the cheek or my mom's hugs. Not because I don't love them, but because I'd rather show them that love by taking them to lunch or writing them a note.
But since quality time and words are MY love language, not necessarily everyone's, I have to be careful to learn the languages that speak affection to the other people in my life. I wouldn't value someone doing my laundry for me, but maybe that's something that would speak love to Shari. I'm A learning Very Lucky Girl.
Ps-I took the quiz on this site. It's really interesting! http://www.5lovelanguages.com/